Random Chongqing Photos-
Top: View from my host family’s living room window.
Bottom: The Jialing River 嘉陵江.
Reading Comprehension (Rant?):
I have taken it upon myself to translate a passage from our “Reading Comprehension” text book. This passage is what one whole lesson revolves around (the vocab, the grammar, the plot etc.). It’s not a long passage, but instead of being culturally and historically significant (we have yet to read about any dynasties, ancient Chinese customs, folk tales etc.) we read a dramatic/self-criticizing passage with some sort of propagandist motives. Plus this passage is just downright ridiculous. Pay attention to how much emphasis is placed on studying and school:
Chinese level 301, Duxie Textbook: Lesson 8 page 76
Questioning Oneself 反省Fan3 xing3
(taken from “Hongxiu Tianxiang Wenxue” website, written by Whyyuwen)
A game is used for entertainment and relaxation. Never glorify it as the focus of your mind. Otherwise, you will very quickly understand what one calls regret.
My dear…(please don’t mind me if I call you that, because there’s a reason behind it). I think about those days, that fateful coincidence, when I met you in the computer, and then like an enchanter of souls you hooked my heart so deeply, infatuating me… You also seemed like a kind passerby helping me out, I was extremely moved. Little by little I realized that I kind of wasn’t able to leave you. From time to time your frame would flash into my mind. Sometimes I would even great you in my dreams. I like a certain beauty, it’s called artistic conception; I like a certain feeling, it’s called freedom; I like a certain a delight, it’s called wandering; I like even more a certain facial expression; it’s called arrogance. You have everything I like, and you didn’t save these things for yourself, but gave them all to me. Your picture, full of artistic conception like a piece of nature full of beautiful scenery, attracts me. You generously granted me power, allowing me to experience what one calls bossiness, what one calls success. And this success seems to come faster than that in reality. For all these years, you supported me as always, lovingly cared for me, and this never changed. Tell me just how could I not call you “my dear”?
However, “my dear”, I would like for you to first forgive me, even though I am so unwilling to do so, I have made the decision to say bye bye to you. For a little while you probably won’t be able to understand why I did this, but slowly you will get it. No one can be together forever.
We have been “friends” for so long, you also should know me, even though I haven’t gone through hell and high water for you, but I have at least have had a heart of undying loyalty to you. Since I have met you I haven’t made any other “friends.” Even though they have tried their best to tempt me, I never did make “friends” with them. All of this is because of you. But I wasn’t able to kill two birds with one stone. Although you have seen me earn success and earn a place in your world, you haven’t seen how black and blue reality has beaten me, how it’s made me worthless. Because the world is ruthless, it won’t recognize the friend I have in you. The more I get out of you, the more reality takes from me. I have no power to withstand it. I thought this over through and through before making this terrible parting decision.
I remember after making friends with you, I was basically with you every day. As long as I had time, I would see you. I would say that it was like every moment with you counted. Maybe it’s because I was with you too long, like being in another world altogether, after coming back to reality I discovered that all my friends treat me like an alien. The act like I am some unknown stranger to them. One time, just after we had finished our “date”, as soon as I came out of the internet café I ran into them. Smiling, one of them said to me “Xiao Yu, What have you been up to lately? You’ve gotten skinny! Heard that you’ve gotten rich in the internet café! When the day comes that you strike it rich, don’t forget your buddies!” Then another said “Oh yeah, today the math teacher was looking for you, but you weren’t there. You were in the internet café all along!” They walked away laughing and talking amongst themselves. Hearing this was like a blow to the head. That happy feeling a moment ago had utterly vanished. I know they’re making fun of me, ridiculing me, and I have no strength to say anything back. Suddenly I remembered that the day before yesterday our math teacher had us do a set of test questions. I knew that I must have done badly, that must be why he was looking for me. It made me feel as if I had fallen from the top of a mountain, smashing: in to pieces.
I sucked it up and went to school. Like last time, the math teacher really let me have it, my heart ached. As I got home I ran into Dad, the first thing he said to me was “Son, it’s about time you get your hair cut.” I managed to say:
“Didn’t I just have it cut?”
“You just got it cut and it’s already that long?”
I went straight to my room to look in the mirror. Besides my hair I almost couldn’t see my face! My hair was blocking my fair, just like a hoodlum!
“This is me?” I asked myself.
Also, I had gotten incredibly skinny, this is no good news considering I was nowhere near fat before. It wasn’t until then that I realized I should cut my hair and gain some weight. To be honest with you, being “friends” with you this long, I actually almost forgot that drastic bodily changes were the cost of our relationship.
This isn’t too bad, even worse was that final exam.
Those few days before the test, I hadn’t reviewed properly for any of the subjects, they felt like a big mountain weighing on top of me, preventing me from catching my breath. Every time I felt tired from studying I would think of you. Then I saw all my classmates working so hard to prepare for the exam, I got rid of any idea I had to see you and kept studying. But good times don’t last long, once I’d see a problem I couldn’t solve, my head would hurt. I really wanted to get it out of my system, in the end I did secretly “meet up with you”. Honestly speaking, in your world I have even more success and freedom. No one but me can understand that. But do you know my grade for that exam? I failed all three subjects! I hurt more than ever, you probably don’t know what this means for me, that exam wiped clean my records! I am one of the class’s good students. Now that I have failed three subjects, tell me how is one supposed to even raise one’s head? As soon as other people ask me what happened, I will make up some kind of elaborate excuse to get them off my back. I know I am making up a crazy reason because I didn’t do well. I know that I am not only lying to them but also to myself. The sole thing that comforts me, is that after he found out, Dad said “Son, don’t worry! Just take it as a lesson, like a mirror, reminding you to not make the same mistake twice!” As soon as I heard this, I felt my eyes swelling with hot tears, I couldn’t think of anything to say, all I could do was bite my lip and force the tears back.
Honestly speaking, I was ready to be properly scolded, I didn’t think Dad would say anything like that. Maybe I was truly wrong, and truly should reflect on my actions. The me that used to get good grades now fails three subjects! Therefore, I have decided to find the cause of this problem. What I didn’t think would happen was that after examining all the uncertainties, you were actually the cause! It wasn’t until that point that I had that feeling of sudden realization! Really those on the outside of our friendship could have known! I know that I am a person thirsting for success and others’ approval. That imaginary world of yours was able to quickly sate my thirst. This gave me a confident feeling of triumph. I think that must have been what so deeply attracted me, what made me unable to pull myself away, and also what lead me to “dating” you every day. One date was several hours. Sometimes, just to get close to you, I would save all my down time for you. Because of this, my study time decreased by several hours, and I slowly fell behind, leading me to my present predicament.
Once I understood, I decided that I need to part ways with you. I will do my best to cut down my time “with you”. I think you already feel this. I have put most of my time back into studying now. After two months, I realized that I have returned back to my normal self. My grades are gradually going up. My body is much healthier. I have made up with my friends too. This kind of joy is something I can’t get from you, and at the same time it’s what I truly want. My dear, please forgive me. I hope that you can face our relationship. Actually, I ought to face you. Your purpose is only for entertainment and relaxation. Never allow others to become dependent on you. I will control myself; meeting with you occasionally is still alright. But it will never again be as frequent as before.
Ok my dear, that’s all I’ll say. I am still young, the road ahead of me is the most important! We will have our time in the future.
(If you didn’t get it, the guy was “dating” a computer game!)
Stuff I ask myself: If this “dating” went on for so long, wouldn’t you think the parents would have intervened somehow? Wouldn’t the friends have done something more than just randomly mock their old friend who clearly has a problem with computer game addiction? If you were addicted to computer games, would failing some test questions in math really make you rethink your life? Why didn’t the dad ask his son to cut his hair earlier (if it wasn’t obvious before, clearly there are some issues at home!)?
And this is what I ALWAYS find myself asking during the lesson: Why are we reading this? Is this to encourage us to stay away from (the) internet (cafes) and focus more on our studies, what are we 12? Shouldn’t we at least be reading Chinese works written by well-known authors? Even Mao Zedong wouldn’t hurt!

